When Keeping it Real Goes Wrong

I hate when people take the term "keeping it real" completely out of context. And I hear it a lot because I am from NY and NYers are notorious for trying to keep things real.

But besides being a NYer, am I am person. I decent one at that.

So in an effort to keep it real, I don't set out to hurt peoples feelings. I don't gloat in hurting someone's feeling either. But what I will do is look at things from an upfront and honest approach. That comes from the life I have had, and the things I have been through.

Yep I grew up in NY and the youngest daughter of a single mother. I often had to deal with things on my own. Therefore I had to be honest about what was going on around me and not walk around blind to stuff. My sister is a no nonsense type of person. My dad was a no nonsense type of person. The only thing he kept from me was that he had cancer and when he was dying and he saw how shocked I was, he regretted keeping it from me.

When my mom was diagnosed with cancer, she took a head on approach. She changed her life and believed that she was going to get better and she was going to make the most out of every day. To me my mom and dad kept it real.

I have heard stories of people dying and no one knew they were sick. Actually just had a friend who passed away because he didn't keep it real about his physical condition. I have heard friends talk about financial problems they had no clue were going on because those responsible for those things, did not keep it real with what is going on.

I will not apologize for keeping things real. Maybe I can be harsh in my approach, and that is something I can work on and probably should. But I will not accept secrets. I will not accept not looking at both sides of the coin.  And yea often times keeping things real hurt, it hurts bad. But its something to work through. I rather work through it now than later when I have to add shock, disappointment, anger and all these other emotions that come from being kept in the dark about something.